Resilience

Resilience is the capacity to spring back, to recover quickly from setbacks.

Life events create or use up our resilience stores. 

On one occasion we may shrug of a particular setback on another occasion the same setback causes feelings of complete devastation. 

At the moment we are in uncertain times, many of us have seen loved ones physically for a much longer period of time than anticipated. We may have financial worries, relationship concerns, events happening that we can't respond to as we'd like. 

All of these reduce our resilience.

Last week after a period of stress I had a lovely moment in time and space. The following days I got hit with two pieces of news, the first one I worked out a solution to, that reassured me, although in normal times I would have been booking flights. The second piece of news hit me hard as impacted the solution to the first one. In my already stressed state I went from swimming like a swan to being in a whirlpool. My resilience had hit a low point, I doubted myself I entered a state where the next setback, someone promising something that I knew in all likelihood wouldn't happen, but in my low state I clung to this event happening. Of course it didn't happen, I entered a state of feeling overwhelming loss. This was the time to, pause and breathe. I reacted initially in a manner which was almost selfish, I then pondered and realized the issues were all separate so I made plans for all events and working on a solution to each one individually. My resilience is growing as I learn to trust myself again and it is a timely reminder that in stressful times taking a breather, having a sit off is ok, and sometimes it is essential.